How to make the best of life after Covid-19

How to make the best of life after Covid-19

Most of us live out lives by accident – we live as it happens. Fulfilment comes when we live our lives on purpose.

Simon Sinek

Life in lockdown has been like stepping back in time. A few years ago, I wrote an article for Kindred Spirit magazine about remote working. At the time, I’d just published my second novel and had just finished travelling around South-East Asia. I wrote about the freedom of choosing my own hours and places of work, and how much better I felt being able to work in a rhythm that suited my body and energy levels. I wrote that article, convinced that it was something everyone deserved to be able to try for themselves at least once.

Enter, Covid-19.

Before lockdown, 1.7 million people in the UK worked from home. Compare that to the Office for National Statistics’ estimation of 20 million working from home now. I think we all know that life has changed on a global scale when it comes to work and how we get things done. Sooner or later, things will start to open up again and lockdowns will ease. The world as we knew it will change. But what about you? What about your life?

What was your life like, pre-lockdown? Did you bounce out of bed in the morning, excited for the day ahead? Or did you drag yourself to work, wishing you could do something else? Lockdown has forced us to slow down and view our lives without the distractions of work, socialising and general busy-ness. Many have enjoyed spending more time with family, doing creative things around the house or learning online. And a lot of us have been realised how much of our time was filled with things that weren’t as important as we thought. The good news, is that we can absolutely use this time to figure out what we do want from life, and how to prioritise the things that matter so that when lockdown eases, we can start to build a life that’s full of purpose. Here are some journalling/contemplation points to get you started:

What would your perfect day look like?

Waking up without an alarm and quietly sipping on a coffee in silence? Going for a hike in the mountains? Having time to work without distraction or would you prefer the buzz of conversation around you? So many people complain about not having enough time to do the things they’d like to do, but what are those things? When you know what your perfect day looks like, you can start to incorporate it into reality.

What lights you up?

We all have things that make our soul sing. For me, it’s writing and teaching yoga. For you it might be playing the didgeridoo, horse-riding or baking. What are the things that calm you down, bring you to your centre and release your creativity? Likewise, where do you feel at your best? In the countryside or a city? With other people or alone?

What are your unique gifts?

There are some things that everyone can do. And then there are things that only YOU can do in the special way you do them. Maybe you’re ace at creating warm and welcoming spaces, or you’re a badass at calligraphy. Maybe you’re a master matchmaker or a super-safe driver. Writing a list of your unique gifts, and constantly adding to it is an easy way to identify where your innate, soul-driven skills lie.

What would you do if you were absolutely guaranteed success?

Most of us don’t live our lives on purpose because of fear. When fear of not making enough money to pay rent makes you opt for a soulless job in a shop instead of fulfilling your dream of being an artisan baker, are you going to love it just as much? What is it that you would do if nobody or nothing were able to hold you back?

Questions like this are great at the best of times but right now, they’re especially potent. If you’re dreading going back to work with colleagues you don’t get on with, then you can absolutely do something about it! There might not be another time where we get to slow down like this again (let’s hope not, from a public health point of view!).

There has never been a better time than now to start building the life you’ve always wanted to live.

Hello, lovely. I’m Nat.

I’m a yoga teacher, coach and bestselling author with a passion for self-development and self-empowerment, based in Bavaria, Germany. You can find out more on my about page or get in touch via social media.

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You Are Sovereign

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Candles flicker on the ground beside me and the sweet scent of incense fills the air. Music stirs through the speaker and in my cocooned space, my body begins to move. The delicate fabric of my trousers swishes across my legs as I unfurl from the rug beneath me. On the screen in front of me, women from four different corners of Europe move with me. Tentatively at first. Slowly, softly. With each movement, fearlessness sets in as we find freedom in self-expression. Remembering the deep intelligence and wisdom the body holds as we move in the way it asks. Empowered by the truths we’ve shared. Releasing the little deaths of fear, shame, judgement and self-doubt.

Last Saturday, I gave the first Sovereign Workshop. Intuitive movement, journalling and meditation – this was the workshop I’d birthed to inspire other women to empower themselves. And for my own empowerment too. I’d asked for my own deep remembrance to happen. To remember the raw, wild, sensual and wise woman hidden inside. I know know that this is how I do it. By lifting myself I lift others, and by lifting others I lift myself. Discovering our essence together. The good, the bad. The calm, the raw. Finding the depth and complexity of our inner reals and embracing it all.

Claiming our sovereignty.

The truth is, you can spend all the money on all the programs, coaching, educations and teachings in the world. But until you really allow yourself to listen to your own wisdom, it will never get as deep as you want it to go. We are so much more intelligent and wise than we let ourselves believe.

We all have this power inside of us. I do. And so do you. How often do you stop and listen to the whisperings of your soul. Your intuition.

Your body will tell you all you need to know. You just have to be brave enough to hear it.

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Little Deaths

‘You’re too much.’
‘You’re trying too hard.’

When I was 14, the girls I’d been hanging around with dropped me from their group. I was in a new school, in a new city. And a piece of my soul died.

Until that point, I’d been the kid people would describe as ‘spirited.’ My mum had promised me a pound if I could keep quiet for one whole minute so many times….I never managed it. I was boisterous and loved the centre of attention. I loved acting and singing, and applied for Sylvia Young’s Theatre School. I got banned from my childminder’s house because I was too hyperactive. I remember my playfulness and my love of taking up space – no time for shyness. But with those few sentences, uttered in the hallway of my school’s building, that all changed.

Fast forward 23 years to the me you’ve come to know.

If we’ve met in a private setting, I was maybe a little reserved, maybe a little aloof on first impressions. And if we met through my yoga classes then you’ll know me as being someone smily, warm and friendly but not exactly an extrovert. As for that loud girl who jumped around all over the place, who was the life and soul of the party…she comes out very, very rarely. I found it hard to make close female friends, having to first let them somehow prove themselves to me before I’d open up. The extrovert in me became introverted as I let myself become the person who hangs back, who waits to be spoken to before saying anything. Feelings of isolation were very real, and thereve been times when I’ve seen friends of mine doing things without me and felt distinctly left out. I was scared of, and yearned for, close female friendship, and all because of that day in 1997, somewhere between the geography and latin rooms at King Egbert’s school. Of course, I found new friends with the offbeat indie kids and a little while later, those girls who threw me out came back around and we became friends again. One of them even became my BFF until school ended. This is maybe the nature of teenage life, and it was a remark that they probably can’t even remember saying. But it’s an experience that has shaped my entire adult life and has taken a lot of (ongoing) work with deep self-love, self-enquiry and self-empowerment to move on from.

The thing is, that the words we say carry an immense amount of power – to ourselves and the people around us.

If you’re constantly told as a child you can be anything, your life is probably going to look a lot different than if you’ were told you’re worthless. Sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me is a well known saying but for most of us, it’s simply not true. Arguments with lovers and friends, lies, betrayals – they’re all things that can kill off a tiny piece of the Self. They can make us play small, taking up less space and ultimately end up in us not living up to our full potential.

What’s important to remember is that YOU have the power to rewrite that story, to put those words where they truly belong and claim that power back for yourself. The process of self-enquiry, of asking ‘what do I think?’ and ‘where does this feeling come from?’ can be such an amazing way to start doing that.

You are an amazing, uniquely perfect individual. As am I. We all are.

Never forget, how powerful you are.

Hello, lovely. I’m Nat.

I’m a yoga teacher and bestselling author with a passion for self-development and self-empowerment, based in Bavaria, Germany. You can find out more on my about page or get in touch via social media.

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