How to stop regretting your decisions
So you’ve made a decision, and it’s gone wrong. sparkly new job you left your old one for turns out to be worse than expected. You’ve lent money to someone who can’t pay you back. Maybe you’ve tried and failed to launch your own business, or maybe you made a decision in the past that was based in fear instead of taking the risk that might have made your heart sing.
Now what?
Life is really just a series of decisions: what to do with your life, who to do it with and where to do it. We make hundreds of decisions ever day, from what to eat to what to wear. One of the things we humans can do extremely well, is to get caught up in the past. We can dissect and nit-pick and end up in a merry-go-round of could’ve, would’ve, should’ve that leaves us feeling helpless, frustrated and down on ourselves for ‘failing’. But who’s to say that your decision was a failure? And wouldn’t it be so much better if we could somehow turn that around to become a means to make better decisions in the future?
Let’s say you’ve lent money to a friend to help them set up their own business, and that business didn’t work out. You could look at this as a failure - you’ve invested unwisely, you should’ve known better. You might beat yourself up about it, decide to never-ever mix money and friendships again and maybe even lose that friendship as a result.
We can’t go back in time and change things, but we do have the benefit of hindsight and we can learn lessons. So what lessons could you learn to make sure you wouldn’t be repeating that mistake? You might realise that you could’ve done more research to see for yourself if you wanted to risk your money in that project. You might have a rethink about whether you could even afford to risk losing money in the first place.
Failure is defined simply as a lack of success. And when there’s a lack of something, we can always fill it up with something else instead.
The thing about decision is, we can’t see into the future. It’s always, always going to be a step into the unknown and we tend to make decisions based on the information we have available at the time, along with weighing up our capacity for risk as we see it.
A great tool for making decisions that are correct for you as an individual, is by learning your Human Design. If you’re someone who loves personality systems like astrology and such, head over to www.mybodygraph.com and input your info to find out your Human Design Type, along with your Authority. Your Authority is going to tell you which method of decision making is aligned with you as an individual, and best of all, its free.
If you’ve made a decision to do or accept from a place of fear and now regret it, use that as fuel to empower you in making more heart-led decisions in the future. If you’ve gone ahead with something despite feeling internal red flags and now wish you hadn’t, look at the lessons that can help you to start listening to your intuition more in the future.
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