How your menstrual cycle affects your parenting
If you've ever found yourself wondering why one moment you're a Pinterest-perfect mum, crafting, baking, and managing playdates like a pro, and the next you're fantasising about a solo one-way ticket to a tropical beach, this one’s for you. I’m going to share how your menstrual cycle affects your parenting - and why knowing this can change everything.
Understanding Menstrual Cycle Awareness (MCA)
At its core, menstrual cycle awareness is just what it sounds like - being aware of your cycle and how it impacts your life. While many of us may focus on our cycles during fertility journeys, there’s so much more to it than ovulation and pregnancy tests. Your hormones - oestrogen and progesterone - govern not just your ability to conceive but also your moods, energy levels, and even your parenting style.
This awareness can unlock self-compassion and a deeper understanding of why you feel the way you do at certain times of the month.
The Seasons of Your Cycle
Using the seasons to describe your menstrual cycle is a powerful metaphor that helps us better understand what’s happening internally. Do bear in mind that your cycle might feel different to what I’ve described below - that’s perfectly normal! Once you start following your cycle, you’ll be able to identify your own patterns and then adjust accordingly.
Each phase brings its own energy:
Inner Winter (Menstrual Phase): Think hibernation. Energy is low, emotions run deep, and all you might want to do is rest. Parenting during this phase? It can feel like dragging yourself through a snowstorm while carrying a toddler who refuses to wear shoes.
Inner Spring (Follicular Phase): Energy rises, optimism blooms, and you’re ready to tackle crafts, playdates, and more. It’s like someone opened the windows, and the fresh air is finally in!
Inner Summer (Ovulatory Phase): At your peak, you might feel like Supermom, multitasking with ease and conquering all the things. But watch out—just like summer heat, too much can lead to burnout.
Inner Autumn (Luteal Phase): With estrogen dropping and progesterone rising, this phase can bring PMS or a critical eye. You may feel short-tempered or overwhelmed but also deeply reflective.
I’ve got a whole blog series that goes into depth on each season which you can read here (it’s not parenting specific, but more broad): https://www.nataliekmartin.com/blog/innerwinter
This is SUCH valuable knowledge because it means you can:
Plan Ahead: Schedule energy-demanding tasks, like big outings or batch cooking, during your high-energy phases (spring/summer).
Practice Self-Compassion: Recognise that it’s okay to feel less patient or energised during winter or autumn phases.
Communicate Needs: Share your cycle-related feelings with your partner or support network, asking for help when needed.
Quick Tips for Parenting Through Your Cycle
Inner Winter: Ask for help with meals or childcare. Prioritise micro-rests, like an extra minute in the bathroom for some quiet time.
Inner Spring: Embrace the energy—plan a fun day out or tackle a creative project with the kids.
Inner Summer: Use your “Supermum” energy to get ahead, but remember to take breaks.
Inner Autumn: Slow down and reflect. Practice letting go of the inner critic by acknowledging your strengths.
Join the Conversation
Have you ever noticed these shifts in your energy and parenting style? I’d love to hear about your experiences! Leave a comment or join the conversation over on Instagram @natalie.kmartin.
Bonus Resource: Free Cycle Tracker
Ready to start tracking your own seasons? Download my free cycle tracker and learn how to tailor your days to your body’s rhythm. You’ll also get my “Overwhelm Buster Bingo” to help manage stress when parenting feels like too much.