How to create a motherhood that feels GOOD
How much time have you spent thinking or dreaming about your kid(s)? I’m guessing it’s a lot. Maybe you wanted to be a mum from a very young age or maybe you had a very intentional conception, or maybe a challenging fertility journey. When we’re preparing for babies either pre-conception or in pregnancy, we can spend a LOT of time honing in on the detail of our Bubs. So why do we spend so little time thinking about what kind of motherhood we want to have?
Motherhood is huge. It’s messy, beautiful, chaotic, and everything in between. Which is why we need to be asking ourselves:
What do I want my motherhood experience to feel like?
When I first became a mum, it was easy to focus entirely on my son—his milestones, his needs, his everything. But then I realized something. His childhood and my experience of motherhood are deeply connected. If I want him to feel safe, joyful, and secure, I need to feel those things too.
This isn’t about creating some perfect Instagram-worthy life. It’s about YOU. Because you are the foundation of your family. Your wellbeing, energy, and emotions shape the environment your children grow up in.
In fact, research by The Royal Foundations showed that the environment our kids grow up in during their first three years of life, have a major impact on not only their future physical, mental and emotional health, but also their likelihood to have financial security/instablility, develop addictions and even their involvement in crime.
So, let’s flip the script and put YOU front and centre.
Three Questions to Explore:
How do you want your motherhood to feel?
Ease? Fun? Flow? Maybe something else entirely. Try to get specific on an emotion or even a feeling in your body when you think about how you want your day-to-day life as a mama to feel.What do you need to make it happen?
More support? Less perfectionism? Space for self-care? Figure out what aligns with your vision.What might get in the way?
Be honest—what challenges might crop up? These might be practical (e.g. finances) or mindset based. Knowing them helps you to plan ahead.
A Final Note
Your motherhood doesn’t have to look a certain way. It just has to feel good to YOU. And remember, it’s not about being perfect (because who’s got time for that?!). It’s about showing up with intention and grace, even on the messy days.
I go deeper into this topic in Episode 2 of The Mama Circle Podcast. I talk about secure attachment, practical tools, and how to create a motherhood that feels aligned with your values.
If this resonates, give it a listen. I’d love to hear what you think! And, I’ve got a fun, FREE Overwhelm Busting Bingo sheet for you to use when things are feeling intense. Just drop your email below to get it.